forever young. forever free

youth may be the most expensive thing i possess



You bruise a man’s ego just as well as you stroke it



and they never tell you how to deal with heartbreak over friends

they never tell you how deep the pain runs

but it happens. and you live

but to me you will always be my first love

and no one else can displace the energy and passion i put into you

so i wish you well, but i can’t see this through

you can always call me your home – you could have tried a little harder for us


Mehreen kasana

As women, when we’re children we’re taught to enter the world with big hearts. Blooming hearts. Hearts bigger than our damn fists. We are taught to forgive – constantly – as opposed to what young boys are taught: Revenge, to get ‘even.’ Our empathy is constantly made appeals to, often demanded for. If we refuse to show kindness, we are reprimanded. We are not good women if we do not crush our bones to make more space for the world, if we do not spread our entire skin over rocks for others to tread on, if we do not kill ourselves in every meaning of the word in the process of making it cozy for everyone else. It is the heat generated by the burning of our bodies with which the world keeps warm. We are taught to sacrifice so much for so little. This is the general principle all over the world.

By the time we are young women, we are tired. Most of us are drained. Some of us enter a lock of silence because of that lethargy. Some of us lash out. When I think of that big, blooming heart we once had, it looks shriveled and worn out now. When I was teaching, I had a young student named Mariam. She was only 11 years old. Some boy pushed her around in class, called her names, broke her spirit for the day. We were sitting under a chestnut tree on a field trip and she asked me if a boy ever hurt me. I told her many did and I destroyed them one by one. I think that’s the first time she ever heard the word ‘destroyed.’ We rarely teach our girls to fight back for the right reasons.

Take up more space as a woman. Take up more time. Take your time. You are taught to hide, censor, move about without messing up decorum for a man’s comfort. Whether it’s said or not, you’re taught balance. Forget that. Displease. Disappoint. Destroy. Be loud, be righteous, be messy. Mess up and it’s fine – you are learning to unlearn. Do not see yourself like glass. Like you could get dirty and clean. You are flesh. You are not constant. You change. Society teaches women to maintain balance and that robs us of our volatility. Our mercurial hearts. Calm and chaos. Love only when needed; preserve otherwise.

Do not be a moth near the light; be the light itself. Do not let a man’s ocean-big ego swallow you up. Know what you want. Ask yourself first. Decide your own pace. Decide your own path. Be cruel when needed. Be gentle only when needed. Collapse and then re-construct. When someone says you are being obscene, say yes I am. When they say you are being wrong, say yes I am. When they say you are being selfish, say yes I am. Why shouldn’t I be? How do you expect a woman to stand on her two feet if you keep striking her at the ankles.

There are multiple lessons we must teach our young girls so that they render themselves their own pillars instead of keeping male approval as the focal point of their lives. It is so important to state your feelings of inconvenience as a woman. We are instructed to tailor ourselves and our discomfort – constantly told that we are ‘whining’ and ‘nagging’ and ‘complaining too much.’ That kind of silence is horribly violent, that kind of insistence upon uniformly nodding in agreement to your own despair, and smiling emptily so no man is ever uncomfortable around us. Male-entitlement dictates a woman’s silence. If we could see the mimetic model of the erasure of a woman’s voice, it would be an incredibly bloody sight.

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what fears you the most

the imperfections of human relationships


Fenty Beauty: A revolution 

FentyBeauty. Rihanna’s impressive makeup line hit the beauty world and things haven’t been the same since. Girl, Rihanna is not playing around. With her immersive range of 40 shades (not just catering to the average caucasian which the beauty industry uses regularly) Rihanna has stepped out to fit every shade, tone and depth. FentyBeauty is not only affordable but it is DIVERSE. 

With two years in production, the line has been thoroughly researched and thought out. The longevity of the products for the price it has been given, is truly a head turner. From the million reviews of the products I have watched (mine are still in the process of being shipped to me) I can see that there is a reason for the hype. Not just due to the brand name but due to the inclusiveness of darker skin tones (also including women of faith i.e in a headscarf within her promotional video was a nod in my direction) Having this be a major leap within the beauty industry (a shame since we are in the big 2017) competitors are shaking and rethinking marketing strategies.
Since FentyBeauty has been released in store and online simultaneously (in 17 countries!) there has been a crazy rush and hype to try and buy. This being the case, Rihanna had already anticipated the success of her line and ensured full stock of her products. Meaning no crappy “Out of stock” messages appearing or “Not shipped to your country.” Having such a wide range of shades, 13 of FentyBeautys darkest shades have started to sell out. This is a kick in the face of every other Cosmetic company marketing only to the fairer complexion. Thirteen of the darkest shades! Truly a revolution has started with various makeup lines frantically trying to include darker women of colour because they have seen there is money and success, and they want in. 

Rihanna. A visionary. An icon.

Let’s wait and see what her spring collection has instore. It is only the start of a remarkable line but oh boy i can’t wait for  what crazy out of the ordinary concepts she has up her sleeve.