the imperfections of human relationships
a man’s love is as conditional as the thing he desires. To what he can get out of it.
a woman’s love is unconditional to what she can put into it. To the potential she sees.
I have not been let down as many times emotionally from a woman than i have a man. Women are the driving force for me to love and self love. From too many setbacks and unclear paths with a male companion, i decided a long time ago to give my heart and soul to me. To women like me. To women like you.
Yet the bit that frustrates me aside from the empowerment is the distrust in women. We fear each others power and sexual prowess in relation to a man. Sometimes it is not enough hearing it from her, that you need to hear it from him. The final word. The final say. It is the bitterness and rivalry we are conditioned to play out in various scenarios with other females. Yes, disliking a female on personal matters relating to you does not mean that you have dropped the baton of empowerment. It is still there. But the sizing up and deducing where the other womans loyalty lies is a tricky game. The ‘maybe she said that to play with me. Did she really mean it. He didn’t think so.’ That dialogue is one which we all women need to work on. The catfighting over each others ex and asking ‘Is she better than me?’
No honey. That is where we fall down the rabbit hole.
‘She is beautiful in her entirety, as I am in mine.’ Say it with me. Empower yourself and don’t fall suit to doubting the divine feminine energy which you posess.
Lots of love xo
Beyonce has done it again. Released a full length visual album without any exposure. The one hour feature length film is sassy to say the least and it a honest love letter to herself, and to all woman. There is a progression which you can see shift from the offset of the video, up to the climax.
It is angry, it is provoking, it is empowering and it is mindful. Beyonce hits on all themes of jealousy, apathy, anger to resentment. With her screaming at the camera in a parking lot “Who the f*** do you think you are, you ain’t married to no average b**** boy” to her throwing her wedding ring towards the camera. You can sense the bitterness and heartbreak as she shoots down her husband and talks openly in regards with his adultery.
From the likes of Serena Williams to Zendaya and Amandla Stenberg joining her on this visual embarkment, there is a sense of unity and female empowerment. This is one thing which truly stood out to me. The woman were not used as props but more so a visual element to convey a deeper message.
The connotation of Lemonade taken from her Grandmother’s speech at her 90th birthday, the album is a celebration of the women in her life down to her daughter ‘Blue Ivy.’ She appears during the film from shots taken when Beyonce was pregnant to videos of Jay-Z and Blue playing soccer. Beyonce is more personal with this album. There is a raw element to it. She embraces her flaws and mistakes and in a way is showing her human side. Her vulnerable side, mixed with the strong protagonist she is. There are home made videos laced within the film showing clips from her wedding, where she sings in the backdrop “when love was stronger than your pride.”
With the mothers, daughters and sisters of the victims of police brutality shown, Beyonce voices their battle too. Following controversy regarding her ‘Formation’ video, Beyonce understands the precedent of her power. She is a woman to be reckoned with. This is the exact message she is sending to her husband. “You come home at 3am and lie to me.” Let’s not get it twisted though. The whole album is not just regarding adultery. It is about the underlying police brutality to references to Malcolm X stating black women are ignored.
All in all, if you haven’t watched the feature length film yet, you are missing out on the Lemonade everyone is drinking from.
April 29 2016. It is here. It is written in flesh. The highly anticipated album from Canadian rapper/singer Drake will be releasing soon with various tracks leaked in order for the extra hype and talk.If you have been living under a rock, I have come with news. Drake is back. Summer is his for the taking.
The various tracks which are already in the public domain from ‘Come and see me, Faithful, One Dance, Pop Style and Controlla’ have features from the likes of Jay-Z, Kanye West to Pimp-C and Popcaan. There is a pattern forming here if you haven’t already guessed it, or if male entitlement blinds you, but there are no female artists featuring. Thus so far from what I can collect, there probably will be no collab with a female artist. This is saddening to think. The king of exposure, Aubrey Drake Graham can not put a single female yet the smooth talking, get you to bed rapping Drake can continuously sing in regards with the fairer sex.
Let’s break it down for those who do not have the ball park figure. The amount of times Drake has mentioned a women in his songs, and here I’m referring to a sexual desire or experience with them is above/below 129 times. From his first mixtape “Room for Improvement” to what we have gathered from “Views from the 6.” 129. Honey if I didn’t know Drake was a rapper I would have called him out to be a male escort for the taking.
You might argue that, hey there was that song he did with Rihanna and Nicki. Okay if we take that into account, he has collaborated with 4 females. In the landscape of hip-hop and R&B where women are constantly fighting to voice themselves, Drake has collaborated with just 4. It is a shame that the king of Toronto can sign on names such as PARTYNEXTDOOR, Majid Jordan, ILoveMakonnen and Roy Woods but no female artist. I’m sorry, but did all the females suddenly disappear or is there a misogynistic bone in your body Drake, which does not allow you to express your love for women apart from singing out their names and sexually objectifying them? You can’t have it just one way. You can not keep screaming women but not appreciating them for their efforts. You are no way helping women out here. Your music might be sweet ( when I’m not taking in the patriarchal lyrics into account) but women deserve a voice. If not now, when? After your affair with women ends? Because we both know that’s a long way off…
lack of interest, enthusiasm, or concern.
The new wave of dating but not being in a relationship, is the backbone of today’s youth. It is the root of emotional and mental breakdowns. Intimacy is an artform which we have crafted to no longer exist, aside from the casual hookups. It is the reason why we have the notion of ‘fuckboys’ ‘fuckgirls’ thrown around constantly to give us leverage against each other. This apathy is resonant within the music culture and hip-hop, R&B scene. We have created such a toxic atmosphere where all we hear rappers and singers cry about all day are from one of the following themes;
- Why don’t these hoes love me (because hoe is a more empowering term for women, don’t get me started )
- Why won’t my girl take me back even though I cheated on her. It just doesn’t make sense
- I enjoy spending my time with various (bad) women but my shawty has got to be (good)
- I dated a stripper, but if I do refer to her that is what I will call her out on. I will look pass every thing she ever did for me (yes I’m talking about Kanye)
- Oh I could probably take your girl, because women love running from one man to the other for some reason
These are just a few from the top of my head but they all follow the same genre. It’s tiring being a single woman when you encounter men after men with the same ‘its not that deep’ attitude. Since when was this the answer to everything. Whatever happened to genuine interest and sense of affection and care. Maybe this is all the rage whilst at University, but I guess there are quite a handful of women (apart from me) who crave more. This sense of not caring to show you are alright, is detrimental. It is lonely and it isn’t fruitful. I don’t want to be waiting or not waiting for your text. I don’t want to be lead on just for fun. I don’t want to have to kiss a dozen frogs for my prince.